The Purity Culture Dropout™ Program

“Working with Erica through Purity Culture Dropout™ was one of the greatest gifts I have given myself in my adult life.”

PCD isn’t “just” sex education.

We dive right into addressing sexual shame and the cultural contexts that we exist in. While sex education is a large component of it, sex ed isn't just learning about bodies and what they do. It's also about diving into the attitudes, beliefs, and cultural norms that create our values around sex and sexuality. Addressing shame is an ongoing goal of the program, and I tend to see in my clients that just dedicating time to talking and learning about sexuality is a strong weapon in the fight against shame.

The Purity Culture Dropout ™️ Program is the highest level of individual support that I offer.

PCD is an intensive sexuality education and coaching program for folks who were raised in purity culture and who are seeking the queer inclusive, shame free, trauma informed, medically accurate, and comprehensive sex education they never got and need. The program consists of intensive one-on-one work with me as well as individualized sex education learning assignments that are tailored to your specific needs.

I take a small amount of PCD individual intensive clients per year.

Please fill out the inquiry form below if you would like to be one of them.

Please note: There is no group component to this work. If you are interested specifically in group support (and if it applies), check out the PCD Divorce Support Groups, the PCD Queer Support Groups or the PCD Private Community.

FAQ

  • I’ve been a sexuality educator since 2000. I received a Master of Education in Human Sexuality in 2007. Most of my work has been done via intensive, one-on-one sessions. For 17 years I worked exclusively with adolescents in juvenile detention, providing sex education and advocacy. It’s incredibly important to me that my work is trauma-informed and compassionate. I started the Purity Culture Dropout™️ work in spring of 2019 and have worked with hundreds of clients since. I am happy to share my experience- check out my LinkedIn page if you’d like to know more.

  • You will have six one-hour private sessions that you can schedule over the course of several months, but how much time you put into your assignments is up to you. Generally, like with most things, you will get more out of it if you commit some time and energy to it!

    You schedule your own calls on my calendar. I do calls Monday through Thursdays and am flexible with time of day and emergency rescheduling. I know my clients have busy lives and that things come up! I prefer to schedule sessions once every two weeks.

  • The total cost of PCD is $1650 US. You may pay $1650 in one sum, or choose a payment plan. That means $300 down, and an individualized extended payment plan that we create together for the rest. I am extremely flexible with when/how you make your payments. Payment plans can extend past our time working together.

    Add-on sessions after the original six are $200 each.

  • PCD is a program for individuals only. If you are partnered, it is likely that some assignments may involve talking to your partner(s), but they will not participate in our calls.

  • This is not sex therapy. It's important to me to be clear that I am not a therapist or mental health clinician. I'm an experienced sexuality educator with a Master of Education in Human Sexuality Studies. I refer folks to therapy if necessary, and encourage participants to speak to their therapists about our work together if that feels right to you. PCD work is a great compliment to therapy- many therapists refer clients to me and share my resources with their clients. I am also happy to speak to your therapist with your permission, if applicable.

  • Absolutely! I’ve worked with many clients who are still religious, or unsure of where they stand with religion. Not everyone renounces religion when they renounce purity culture, and I meet all clients where they’re at. You will receive zero judgment from me about your relationship to religion.

  • Anything sexuality related that you want to learn! We decide on that together. At the beginning of the program, you will complete a detailed assessment about yourself, your background and experiences, and where you want to be when the program is over. I also provide you with a long list of possible learning topics, and you can select as many that you want. Some folks want to become better communicators with their partners, some want to understand their own pleasure, some want to prepare for their first time having sex with a partner, some want to be able to have tough conversations with their own children. You may want all of the above, and we can do that, too.

  • Your experience of your sexuality is a lifelong journey. Though a lot may change in the time we work together, you will keep learning and growing long after. At the end of PCD, I provide you with a vast library of all of my sex ed resources, including my workbook, all webinars, and more. I love to stay in close touch with my clients and am always available for you after PCD. I consider alumni to be VIP, which means you can email me any time to ask follow up questions, or book a one-on-one session that’s given high priority.

What you get

Personalized Support

Before we begin our sessions, you will complete an intake form in which you share your history and background, current struggles, learning objectives, and your goals for doing this work with me. In addition to asking you what you learned about sex growing up and how it’s affecting you now, I will also provide you with a list of sex education learning topics, and you check off all that you’d like to work on!

Example learning topics include: communicating with partners, STI/HIV prevention, determining my sexual values, pleasure, parenting, and more.

One on One Sessions

 We will have six one-on-one Zoom calls over the course of a few months, scheduled at your convenience. On our calls, we dig into your personal learning objectives, goals, and areas of need. We process what you’re experiencing with your sexuality in real time. I prefer to schedule one call every two weeks. I am also available to you for unlimited personal support via email during our work together. 

While some people feel like they’ve met their goals after six sessions, others have opted to continue working together. I offer add-on individual sessions when appropriate.

Homework & Resources

After every session, I give you a digital folder full of notes, reflections, and assignments. You may be asked to read articles or books, watch videos, initiate a conversation, journal, challenge yourself to try a new experience, etc. Your assignments are unique to you in order to progress you toward your goals. The more you put into your PCD work, the more you will get out of it!

After our work together, I send you a package of sex education that you can reference and rely on going forward. This includes My Sexual Values Workbook, every webinar in my library, additional sex ed documents, and more. You will also have access to the PCD Private Community at a lifetime locked in rate of $30/month or $30/year.

  • “Not only was Erica informed and compassionate about all things purity culture/sex ed, she created a community that has been a lifesaver during this dumpster fire of a year.

    The conversations I had with Erica over the course of PCD opened doors for me to seek other specialists and continue on my healing journey. I'm so grateful for Erica, PCD, and this community.”

    —CH

  • “Working with Erica through PCD has been one of the greatest investments of my life, and I don't say that lightly.

    When I first heard of the Purity Culture Dropout program, I knew it was for me. But, like purity culture reminds us, I felt very unworthy of help, and very selfish for craving it. Through working with Erica, I have felt truly validated, seen, known and liberated. She is wholeheartedly genuine. She wants you to be the most you that you can be, not anyone else. She is wise, gentle, hilarious, gritty and passionate. She has helped me deconstruct ideas and mindsets that do not serve me, and has encouraged me in building up ones that do.

    —AK

  • "Saying "Yes" to PCD was saying a powerful "No" to being held hostage by a system that has already stolen too much from me and others hurt by purity culture.

    Saying "Yes" to PCD was saying yes to myself, all of me. I thought I could handle wading through the rubble Purity Culture left me all by myself. Really though, I needed a lifeline. I needed a hand to guide me out to the other side. That lifeline, that guide, was Erica. I'd say yes to that a million times over again. Let yourself be loved, cared for, championed, supported and seen by Erica through this massive dismantling. You deserve it.” 

    —AK

  • “While I had already done some decent work on deconstructing purity culture on my own terms, there was still so much for me to learn and unlearn

    (anatomy! sexual health! sex worker advocacy! homophobic-based fears and/or sexual attitudes!). Connecting with others through the program who were raised similarly and deconstructing was also incredibly cathartic. I think anyone raised in Purity Culture has so much to benefit from in working with Erica, but so does any other individual. She provides a safe and shame-free environment where no question or thought is unwelcome to better understanding. She has so much empathy and knowledge to offer. I was empowered, supported, affirmed, and challenged by Erica in every session we had. She enabled so much growth in my sexual and personal well-being, I sincerely cannot say enough good things. “

    —GG

  • ”When I started PCD I was hoping to get the sex ed that I didn't receive growing up, instead I got a life changing experience.

    Erica is extremely knowledgeable, open to any question, and never made me feel embarrassed, ashamed or self conscious. Her individual learning plan allowed our discussions to cover a wide variety of topics, and left space for unplanned discussions. PCD taught me so much beyond what I was expecting.  Her course taught me how to evaluate my beliefs, to  keep the parts I want,  drop the what no longer fits and that its okay for my beliefs room change. Working with Erica through her PCD course is one the best things that I have ever done for myself; there are not words to express the new paths in life this work has opened up for me.”

    —WK

  • “Appreciate you witnessing my growth the past 6 years!

    It was a honor to be part of one of the first cohorts of PCD and having your support was tremendous in beginning to feel safe to create the life I wanted for myself! And the courage to do the homework and expand past my comfort zone. Last year I read through my initial application and while there was a sense of anger/grief, there was also this longing and desire!! So glad that current me is living my best, cozy sexy life!!! It’s hard to believe how far I’ve come. I think about how you said back then how “I’m moving in a direction” towards what I want to create. From how activating it was for my nervous system to talk about desires/interests, to actively exploring them, ease in discussing them, and honoring their rhythms and cycles is wild.“

    —F