Purity Culture Dropout Divorce Support Groups
For people who are divorced/ separated/ divorcing / separating/ or feel they might be headed that way- after purity culture.
What do you do when purity culture promised you that following its rules would guarantee a happily- ever-after with your one true love, but it didn’t quite work out that way?
It’s no secret or surprise that when people deconstruct their faith after high control religion (including purity culture), they experience seismic changes in their lives. Sometimes, especially when people marry young, the evolution of their faith, sense of self, and sexuality becomes incompatible with their spouse’s.
The ways that a deeply religious upbringing can affect the experience of divorce (especially with regard to expectations around gender and sexuality) is very specific and can be an isolating experience.
I've observed so many people booking sessions with me to talk about relationships, dating, and sexuality after divorce. I know from creating the PCD™ Queer Support Groups that one of the most powerful ways to learn and grow is in a supportive community with others who understand your unique experience and have a lot of the same questions and concerns. You aren’t just divorced/divorcing…you’re divorced/divorcing after purity culture, which brings up all kinds of things that other divorced people may not necessarily relate to.
Some of those things include:
Anger at how following all the purity culture rules didn’t result in happily ever after
Shame for not “making it work”
Regrets when it comes to sexuality and relationships
Grief about lost youth/ not having a typical experience of dating
Struggling with the weight of others’ opinions on your marriage/ divorce
Losing faith community
Loss of identity as a wife or husband
Judgment from faith community and family about your divorce
Questions and worry about navigating sex and dating now
People in your business/ sex life now
Anxiety about dating/sex when you have little experience
Feelings of exhilaration (and also terror) about living life without the weight of traditional expectations you once adhered to
Having healthy romantic/ sexual relationships
In these support groups we’ll navigate identity, sexuality, dating, gender expectations, shame, pleasure, community, and so much more- all specially tailored to address the niche experience of people who are divorced after purity culture.
Note: This group is open to anyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Queer folks (especially those newly discovering their queerness) are very welcome! You decide how to interpret “divorce”- whether you’re just beginning to separate or have been divorced for years, you’re welcome in this group.
“The Purity Culture Dropout Divorce Support Group exceeded my expectations, and I feel like I just made friends for life. My marriage and divorce story and upbringing are hard to explain to outsiders, even people raised in the church. But this group was a sisterhood of other women with experiences similar to mine. We shared and supported each other because we've all been there. And Erica is skillful at putting everyone at ease and celebrating each person's uniqueness. The only downside of the group is that it ends.”
How the Groups Work
There are FOUR different groups to choose from. Groups run for 8 weeks total and will be held for 90 minutes. We’ll meet online via Zoom.
The groups will begin the week of November 2nd, 2025.
Each week has a theme/topic and will include structured, facilitated conversation and prompts.
Total cost for the 8-session support group is $450 and can be made in three payments. (Less than $40/hour)
Each group will be capped at 10 people. Space is limited.
“It was one of the best decisions I ever made. 100% recommend for anyone who came out of purity culture and is considering divorce, going through divorce, or post divorce. It was so, so good. And I still chat with the amazing humans in my group regularly. I would've never found that level of support, especially so targeted for someone coming out of purity culture, anywhere else. It changed my life and healed me.”
“It was so great to have a safe space with others that totally get the childhood I had!
Erica was great at facilitating discussion and making sure that everyone had ample time to speak!
Being able to talk about your unique trauma and be understood is very healing.”
Groups/Dates Available
There are FOUR different groups to choose from. All times are listed in ET.
Each group is capped at 10 participants. Each session will run for 90 minutes.
All groups will run for 8 sessions (we’ll take some breaks around the holidays).
Cost: $450
Payment Plan is available ($150 per month for 3 months)
Group 1 - Sundays 12pm ET
Starts Sun, Nov 2nd
(8 sessions total)
Group 2 - Tuesdays 7pm ET
Starts Tues, Nov 4th
(8 sessions total)
Group 3 - Wednesdays 9pm ET
Starts Wed, Nov 5th
(8 sessions total)
Group 4 - Sundays 7:30pm ET
Starts Sun, Nov 2nd
(8 sessions total)
“Divorce represents the death of so many dreams. Being able to be in a support group facilitated by someone as skilled and compassionate as Erica can help divorce to be the birth of many new dreams. I wholeheartedly recommend the PCD Divorce Support Groups, especially if you got married in the thick of purity culture and are now wondering what you want love to look like in this new season. Being able to process it with others who are in a similar situation is invaluable and has been huge in my own growth process.”