Join the The Purity Culture Dropout™ Community
Heal from purity culture & learn crucial information with a private community who supports and understands you.
What's a Purity Culture Dropout™?
Have you ever sat through a youth pastor talking about sex with his "smokin' hot wife" while telling everyone else that they'd be damned to hell for eternity if they had sex before marriage? Did you ever hear someone compare a sexually active young person to a chewed up piece of gum or a picked apart flower? Were you told that even thinking sexual thoughts was going to lead you down a road of irredeemable sin?
If you answered yes to these questions and you
1) don't believe this shit anymore
2) are craving actual sex education that doesn't involve religion
3) are honestly still pissed at how those messages and lack of real sex ed affected you...
Then you might be a Purity Culture Dropout.™
Hi, I’m Erica
I'm a sex educator who is dedicated to helping you work through post-purity culture shame and overwhelm by teaching you all of the sex ed you want and need- sex ed that is comprehensive, medically accurate, and absolutely shame and religion-free.
In the Purity Culture Dropout™ Community, we're gonna do this together.
In 2019 I began focusing my sex ed work on people raised in purity culture.
I've learned a few important things:
1) Community is the best way to navigate change, achieve results and transformation, and build new practices and habits.
2) Many people who left purity culture or their religious homes really miss community! It's hard being a purity culture dropout when you feel alone.
3) The programs I've run that give people the chance to interact with each other (even the chats that occur during my Zoom webinars!) are hands down the best.
4) Social media isn't the best place to find that connection. There are lurkers, trolls, ads, noise, and often the worry that interacting with my content isn't private. What if following my work doesn't feel safe, and commenting to share your experiences certainly doesn't?
I get it. That's why I created this community.
Our Mission
We bring together people who are healing from purity culture harm to experience the accurate, shame free sex education they are craving and create connection and community with others so they can navigate their sexuality from a place of confidence and joy rather than shame and fear.
When you join the Purity Culture Dropout™ Community, there’s TWO tiers to choose from.
Here’s what you get in each:
THE LITE PLAN
Drop in support group space where you can connect with others, facilitated by Erica
Weekly values exploration exercises & weekly written sex ed mini-lessons
Regular prompts and questions on a variety of relevant topics
An open community forum to connect and share in a secure space away from social media
The PCD Resource Guide
The Sexual Values Workbook
Biweekly sex ed classes (live & recorded)
Guest teachers on specialty topics
THE FULL PLAN
Drop in support group space where you can connect with others, facilitated by Erica
Weekly values exploration exercises & weekly written sex ed mini-lessons
Regular prompts and questions on a variety of relevant topics
An open community forum to connect and share in a secure space away from social media
The PCD Resource Guide
The Sexual Values Workbook
Biweekly sex ed classes (live & recorded)
Guest teachers on specialty topics
Both plans are a paid, members-only space securely hosted by The Mighty Networks platform. The public cannot participate or view what happens inside our community.
The Results You'll Get
Here are a few of the things you’ll be able to do as a member of The Purity Culture Dropout™ Community:
Feel seen, heard, and have your experiences normalized by others on the same path.
Ask any and all questions you have about sex and sexuality and receive accurate, comprehensive information with zero shame, judgment, or condescension.
Learn new skills related to sex and communication; gain confidence!
Draw from the collective wisdom and personal experiences of the community in order to try new things and challenge yourself
Participate in lessons, challenges, discussions, and more
Make friends and family. Honestly, I've seen some of the most beautiful online and real life relationships develop from the spaces I've run. We genuinely have so much fun in our support groups.
And a note to you if you're thinking one of the following...
I’m just going to keep ignoring this issue like I've been doing
It’s too late for me anyway/ I'm too old for this
I’ll never be “normal” when it comes to sex because purity culture messed me up too badly
It’s selfish to focus on this issue right now
I think I’m doing pretty well on my own
I feel too overwhelmed by everything I don’t know
I promise that you are welcome here and this space is for you. If not now, when? Y
ou're never too old to learn and grow, there isn't an expiration date on when you can explore your sexuality, and you deserve to feel at peace when it comes to such a natural part of life.
We welcome all genders, ages, and stages of purity culture deconstruction to this space.
Examples of my education + things we’ll definitely dive into…
I believe deeply that sexual education is a human right.
I want you to know this: you deserve to know this stuff, and you always have. Sex is the one topic that we treat as if it’s bad to have more information.
I believe that everyone has the right to know how their bodies work, and that you get to make your own decisions about what you do with that information. This has always been my approach as a sex educator, when I worked with young people in juvenile detention, and when I work with Purity Culture Dropout® clients.
I’m not here to tell you what to do, and I have no desire to make your decisions for you. No matter your story, you are welcome here. I commit to providing you with the comprehensive information, tools, and guidance you need to understand how your body works and embrace a healthy and balanced approach to sexuality—one that works for YOU.
I also want you to know that healing from purity culture is a long game. I wish I had a magic pill to give people that would free them from all their sexual shame and purity culture-related hang-ups, but alas, I don’t!
Healing takes work, but it’s absolutely worth it. If you feel like purity culture has affected your ability to have a healthy sexual relationship with yourself or others, you are not alone. Be patient with yourself. Learning comprehensive information about sexuality might be just one piece of your healing.
Sex education is life changing. I believe it with my whole heart, and I’ve seen it time and time again in over two decades of work. I've seen so many people become more confident, better informed, more certain, less affected by shame, and better prepared for relationships through good sex education. You can be one of those people.
Choose your plan
Lite Plan
$22 per month
Drop in support group space where you can connect with others, facilitated by Erica
Weekly values exploration exercises & weekly written sex ed mini-lessons
Regular prompts and questions on a variety of relevant topics
An open community forum to connect and share in a secure space away from social media
Biweekly sex ed classes (live & recorded)
Guest teachers on specialty topics
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Full Plan
$50 per month
Drop in support group space where you can connect with others, facilitated by Erica
Weekly values exploration exercises & weekly written sex ed mini-lessons
Regular prompts and questions on a variety of relevant topics
An open community forum to connect and share in a secure space away from social media
Biweekly sex ed classes (live & recorded)
Guest teachers on specialty topics
“There’s something markedly exceptional about Erica. She believes us. Even though she didn’t grow up like we did, she believes us. She believes our stories, our traumas, our struggles. And she likes us. She genuinely likes us. For those of us who grew up in high control religion and purity culture, I think we are familiar with our stories being doubted, questioned, or corrected. The deep insecurities we have carried since childhood, that we simply are not accepted or liked for who we are because of the questions we ask, the hesitancies we’ve felt, the doubts we’ve expressed, the struggles we cannot seem to overcome, or our sexual curiosities? Erica meets them all, meet us all, right where we are. She does so with unfettered welcome and kindness and gentleness. We’re not a project or an agenda or a cause to save. We’re people with a lot of fuckin baggage, and she offers a safe, steady place to bring it to the table. Our vulnerabilities and fears and desires are held carefully. I simply cannot say enough about how good she is.”